My son just bought what he calls funny t shirts, and I call offensive t shirts. I let him use my credit card to purchase them from an online site because he said that he wanted to get some new t shirts to wear to school. I did not watch over his back while he was ordering, and now think that I should have.

My husband thinks that I am overreacting to the offensive t shirts since a lot of the kids at school wear stuff that is very similar. If the teachers do not say anything about the so called funny t shirts, then my husband thinks that they are not that bad. I am not so sure that I agree.

I went into the office of the school the other day to ask about the dress code policy. I was told that they do not allow anything that would be disruptive to the other students to be worn. I explained two of the offensive t shirts to the secretary and she said that it was not that bad, and it is up to me if my child can continue to wear the funny t shirts that he just bought.

I am not used to not being in control of what my son wears. I realize that he needs to make decisions for himself, and by purchasing his own clothes that he likes, is a way to do that.